Evidence shows that people don’t make changes when they hit rock bottom. It’s hard if not impossible to make much positive change happen from that dark, down in the dumps, negative space.
“What do you mean? I’ve seen many people finally make positive change only when they’ve hit an extreme low.”
Negative emotions narrow our focus, when people choose to make a change in their life, they usually tap into the positive emotion of hope in order to make the change happen.
It is the hope that something will be better than where they are at that causes them to embrace and work towards change.
When it comes to producing, getting yourself into a positive space is going to help you do that. For example, when I work with clients and we are working out how to get them to their goal, if they are in a negative space and I ask them to make a list of all the ways they could get to their goal, that list will be considerably short.
However, if they are in a positive space, that list is significantly longer. That is because positive emotions broaden our ability to see possibilities, options and pathways.
There are many ways that I teach clients to get out of negative states and to focus more on the positive. Such as taking a moment to focus on what they are grateful for, doing a mindfulness meditation or I simply describing their vision of what it will be like when their goals are accomplished.
Positive emotions are critical for making positive changes happen.
What are you waiting for?
Are you waiting for things to get really bad before you attempt to create the things you want in your life?
What do you want right now?
Get yourself into a positive state using one of the techniques I just gave you.
Then put your goal in the center of a page, then create lines from the center with all the different options, steps, connections, and details of what will enable you to get that goal accomplished.
You are awesome! Go ahead, make your goals a reality.
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I am happy with the way a person could get happy through your expresion that was made.
Now i will appreciate to make a sliy comment bout it, The word focus is an interenting thing to know more about it. i will need a full mening on focus
Amelie,
People seem to have a “mental pain threshold”… only when their pain exceeds it do they feel like taking remedial action.
As one would expect, the threshold level varies on an individual basis. It’s almost like the “haircut threshold”: some people wait till their hair’s way overgrown, some run to the hairdresser the moment a single strand grows out by an eighth of an inch.
If people with high mental pain thresholds c0uld be made to lower them, more would not wait to hit rock bottom.
The question is, how do you help them lower their thresholds? Any ideas?
Best,
Lucky